As I am learning about True Love, I am feeling that most people do not believe they will find true love. I am starting to get a sense that most people do not believe in their hearts that True Love exists. And what's even more telling is the fact that most folks are stuck on the physical aspects of love and the romantic aspects of love And yet they long for the deep cosmic attachment of companionship. Wanting a Soul Mate, but choosing everything but soul mate quality affairs. Being stuck on the illusory aspects of physical and romantic love is really not totally our fault, I mean Hollywood and fairy tales do a great job of brainwashing us. Some of us make the connection of the love expressed in the bible, but for the most part, don't feel worthy of that type of love. Love is not the illusory experience everyone is convinced won't happen for them. Love exists all all around us. Soul Mate love is just one aspect of the greatness and magnitude of love.
I say SUSPEND DISBELIEF. We are worthy of love. As I do the healing work so is my soul mate somewhere out there. As I step into the Grown Woman space, my soul mate is on his way. What we believe we deserve, we attract. The loneliness overwhelms us and we think that if we don't grab what's in front of us, we will be left out and left alone. I am also convinced that what's in front of us are always valuable lessons designed to bring us more fully into our selves. If that Player Player is wooing you and you know he is not good for you, what's the lesson? Perhaps you need to learn how to recognize a Player, Player. Or maybe you need to understand that your needs are greater than being underneath someone for the moment. Or maybe you need to learn that having someone value your well-being is more important than having someone show up sporadically. Whatever the lessons, whatever the messages, Suspending Disbelief is key. Once you truly believe that love exists and that you are already loved and that what is meant for you won't get by you, then how you see the world and your place in it changes. I swear it does. Taking the focus off what is lacking, gives you a better view of what is already providing love.
The Love List 21-26
21. Must be an energetic & enthusiastic lover.
22. Must be a considerate lover.
23. Co-creates an atmosphere of safety, trust and intimacy.
24. Is as concerned about my orgasms as he is with his climax(es).
25. Must be daring, playful, soft, aggressive, tender, open, honest and present.
26. Must Want, Value, & Accept a monogomous sexual relationship.