My marriage history is filled with lovely stories of romantic gestures. But they all weren't happy. At some point my husband began to dread holidays and gift-giving. He began to see my gestures of love as competitive events that he couldn't keep up with. He began to resent me and my excitement about Valentine's Day, Christmas, my Birthday. He started complaining about how hard it was to give me a gift. He started feeling like it was unfair to put so much effort into commercial holidays. I NEVER ONCE ASKED FOR ANYTHING. I am not one of these women who gives lists of expected gifts. I love gifts. What ever I got I was happy. He never believed me. He always felt like I expected him to match my giving. So I started dreading my favorite holidays because I could not take the fighting and whining.
In spite of all of that nonsense, I do believe in Love and I do believe that I will get married again and I know the next Man will get me in a way that my current/estranged husband did not and could not.
I remain a hopeful, romantic, optimist.
The Love List 59-61
59. Loves to Read. Is interested in all types of genres.
60. Loves all types of music. Must have a top 5! Mine are:
- Lovely Day, Bill Withers
- Love's Holiday, Earth Wind & Fire
- Air in G String, Johann Sebastian Bach
- Edge of a Dream, Minnie Ripperton
- So Far Away, Carol King
61. Loves Films/Movies. Must Have a top 5! Mine are:
- Daughters of the Dust
- Auntie Mame--The Rosalind Russell version
- They Way We Were
- The entire James Bond franchise