TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON: SSHHHH! THERE IS NO TALKING IN TANGO

When your partner takes you to the floor, there is an expectation that you will follow.  There is no foreplay of verbal back and forth.  You follow. You trust.  You know your place.

You cannot and must not ask questions.  The movement of the body is the only way to communicate.  You must know your body.  You must be comfortable in your own skin.  It is not about size, height, weight.  It is about TANGO. You move when he moves.  You surrender when he guides you.

There is no talking in TANGO. You cannot just stop and ask what is the next step.

Tango is about communicating with your body.  If you are not comfortable in your own skin, tango will either get you comfortable or make you acutely aware that Tango is not for you.

I am comfortable and uncomfortable in my body.  I am drawn to the passion and sensualness of Tango. I am a sensual and sexual woman.  I am also very aware of the shame I carry in carrying excess weight.  That is my paradox.  Tango ignores weight, size, height.  I do not.

You must answer your life's questions out loud  before you Tango.  You will get answers as you move.  You have to listen and you have to be willing to hear your body. 

There is no talking in Tango.

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON:START AGAIN OR HOW TO LIVE IN PARTNERSHIP

Tango starts and begins as you feel the passion.  It calls you.  Once you start there is no end. You have to be willing to give up your notion of control and power.  There is no way to Tango if you think you have control.  You must yield to your partner.  You must go where they lead. You must surrender.  I am a modern thinking woman. The idea of surrendering is at best difficult...almost near impossible. 

Yet I have danced the Tango.  It does not care about my philosophical views, hang-ups, politics, feminist stance.  You have to surrender and allow your partner to lead, guide and direct.  Why? Why dance this dance that requires so much of giving up your control as a woman?  Because the passion is the fuel of life.  Because I am learning who I am.  I am learning that partnership is vital and necessary.  I was not meant to live alone. Tango is my metaphor for my life right now.  Learn to live in partnership!  Learn TO LIVE IN PARTNERSHIP BUT NOT IN STRUGGLE. Tango is about moving as one, with grace and rhythm and passion. This is what I want in my life. So I am going back to Tango. To learn. To accept passion. To love.

Here is my teacher dancing the Argentine Tango.  See what I mean...

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON #7

CONNECTION. COORDINATION. RESPONSE. Tango is about connecting intimately with your partner, the floor, the music. It is letting the body flow. It is responding to everything all at once. This is the Tao of Tango.

Last night I learned a new Tango step. I love the way I am learning to Tango. I am loving how I am yielding to the dance, the partners, the music. I am stepping onto the floor with more confidence. With each step I am committed to the dance. I am committed to the love of Tango.

We made love all night. We started well before midnight and finished with the morning pushing through the windows. There was no time or space where we existed. We were of one spirit...one body...a continuation of a long running love story. Last night was different than all the nights before. This was a different passion. A surrendering of all that we are and all that we mean to each other. It was naked...it was raw...it was full circle.

The Tango requires that you open yourself up and let the music flow through you. You cannot resist the music, the feel of the sensual. If you do resist, you are not dancing the Tango. It is forceful. It is bold. It is masculine and feminine. It is living life with passion.

The passion between us remains explosive...but not violent. It is sensual and tender. It is comforting and safe. I am at home in his arms in a way that I have never been with anyone ever. It is profound this sense of passion and joy. It makes me strong and not needy. It makes me be bold and not insecure.

The Tango speaks to living with passion and joy and harmony and balance.

The Love Story continues...

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON #6

Body Language. Eyes up, no looking at your feet. There is nothing to see on the floor. The way to move is to wait for the direction from your partner. Read body language...this is The Tao of Tango.

So we are abstaining from making love for 14 days. Discipline. Clarity. Catching one's breath. We are consumed with passion. We are each others ignition. He wants this to be something real. I already know and believe in the realness of Us. He does too, but he wants certainty. He wants absolutes. I know there are no absolutes. But there is divinity and what is meant for you won't get by you. So I am surrendering to his declarations.

Gauchos in Tango requires the woman to kick. The Man must not only guide you into the gaucho, but he has to set his body in order to receive the kick. You have to read body language, you have to be in tuned to your partner. You have to be in the ready...one foot off the ground all the time. He has to move you, pivot you, direct you.

I love his reasons for taking this loveship to the next level. He is serious. He has always been serious. He is a very grounded soul. Wise beyond his years. He is pragmatic as I am a dreamer. He is a task master where I am a free spirit. He is a man for a map where I will follow where the day takes me. What binds us, roots us, connects us is the passion. We balance each other. I am not afraid of him. He has always been a safe harbor....safe meaning no harm will come to me by his hand. No harsh words will he ever speak to me. He wasn't raised that way nor is it in his nature. He loves me from the highest place in his soul. He loves me from the deepest recesses of his heart. He is for me and I am for him.

To Tango is to live with passion. There is no way to dance this dance and not feel the music, the pace of your partners heart moving you across the floor. The thing about Tango is that it keeps your full attention. There is no quitting, only more dancing.

So He is making room for me. He is including me in his dreams, his right now and his future. There is nothing for me to do but follow. I happily follow.

The Love Story continues....

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON #5

INTENSE. You have to get into the intensity of the dance, your partner, the music, the drama of it all. You have to be fearless. You have to trust your body and allow it to be seduced. This is the Tao of Tango.

It is indeed intense with us. More intense than I could have ever dreamed up. We are explosive. We are gentle. I have never in my life felt this kind of passion. My body responds as if it has a will of its own. He catches me off guard. He sees me. He sees me in ways that so many did not, could not, would not. He asks if I am trying to blow his mind...truth be told he is blowing mine.

Tango is more intense than I thought possible. I knew of the history and I have been in awe as well as inspired by those who dance the Tango. It is the most seductive dance and greedily requires you to surrender. I surrender. I am surrendering.

He loves me. Always has. I love him. Always have. Our friendship transcends time and space. That will not change...this love. What looms on the horizon is how to join our lives. Should we join our lives. Perhaps the intensity will burn out and we will leave each other to our lives. Perhaps the intensity will bond us...like hot molten steel constructing a new foundation which to build upon.

I am committed to the Tango. It speaks to my sexual feminine. I feel like a woman in love.

I am a woman in love.

The Love Story continues...

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON #4

YOU GOTTA FEEL THE PASSION. YOU GOTTA TAP THAT INNER SEX APPEAL. YOU GOTTA FEEL THE AROUSAL. THIS IS THE TAO OF TANGO.

It took me all class to get the ouchos...forward and backwards. So much about Tango is feeling. You have to be prepared to go there...tap that sexual energy. Otherwise you are wasting your time. Tango is about putting your sexy...arousal...passion... on display. It is about the beauty of movement between a man and a woman. It is unlocking secrets. It is being honest and letting go of inhibitions.

My Love and I got past our little rough patch yesterday. I walked forward and dropped my stance. I surrendered. He reached out to me and was kind and generous. It is amazing how past relationships can haunt the present ones. You gotta be prepared to let go and stand fully in the new found love. It is about he and I right now in this space. Real. Raw. Loving. You have to be willing to work. WORK! WORK! WORK! And you gotta work with a sense of willingness, joy and commitment to love.

God has answered my prayer, now I must stand in reciept of my gift with gratitude.

The Love Story continues....

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON #3

BALANCE. TRUST. BALANCE. FOLLOW. BALANCE. THAT IS THE TAO OF TANGO.

Last night we learned a few more steps on top of the steps we learned last week...that I have not mastered yet. This week it was all about balance...be ready to move as your partner leads. Staying on one foot with the other foot up off the floor in anticipation of the next move....uuuggh!

BALANCE.

He came to me last night...he hadn't planned on it. I texted him cum or not...but come. He came. He is drawn to me. He is connected to me. He likes me. He loves me. When he touches me it is like falling off a cliff. Last night the love we made was more explosive than the night before. It takes a toll on him he says...this level of passion. He says we need to balance the passion. Not temper it...just balance it. Balance it up against everyday things like making dinner and thinking about the universe and planning forward. He has plans that don't include me and yet they include me. I can feel him looking for the balance of where he has to go...where he is and what he can't afford to leave behind, nor take with.

The LOVE STORY continues....

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON #2

Commitment. Commitment in the face of hardship and uncertainty. That is Tango. You have to have absolute trust. Absolute trust in yourself and in your partner. It is hard but you have to keep at it. There is no quitting, only practice...do...practice...do. This is the Tao of Tango.

Last night I got comfortable with the basic 8 steps. I practiced. I did it. I practiced. I trusted my partner. I had to commit to his leading. I had to yield to his mis-steps. I had to be confident in his ability to lead me. He did. It took the whole class but by the end, we were going around the room nonstop!

It is no accident that I am learning the Argentine Tango as I am falling in love with someone whom I've loved my whole life. The passion in the dance and the Love Supreme is breath taking. It is pure nirvana when you hit the steps. When he touches me...kisses me. The Tango and The Love Supreme are in sync. It is about passion and living in high definition. It is living the belief that Love Waits On Welcome Not On Time.

I welcome the lessons of The Tango and I welcome love.

The Love Story continues...

TANGO SUEÑO...TANGO LESSON #1

Last night was my first tango lesson...Argentine style. I was thrilled. Nervous. Excited. Ready. It was hard physically and intellectually. Physically, I don't have good balance--I am in poor physical shape. Intellectually it was was hard because as a woman you have to surrender the impulse to lead...take over.

Tango requires trust. Absolute trust. Willingness to be led. Even if your partner isn't strong you have to follow. Hhmm this was HARD. My first impulse is to correct. Takeover. Lead.

As we were switching partners throughout the class, I noticed very clearly that when I had a strong partner I was a better partner. I was more able to allow my partner to lead and I take the cues and follow. But when my partner was weak, I was weak and it was hard to stay focused and get our bearings. I could feel frustration setting in.

Tango is already teaching me something more than the art of walking. It is teaching me the art of surrendering. Trusting. And doing it all with grace and passion.

I am convinced that the Divine is using the Tango to teach me more about who I am and what I want.