Monday, March 24, 2008


On Saturday I posted about High Maintenance Women (HMW) and the response was quite interesting. Now as usual I got bombarded with emails about this topic from folks who lurk and not post but feel compelled to email their opinions. Thank you.

I know everyone wants to take the high ground on this, as if there is some moral high ground to take. There are women who's only purpose for being is to look FABULOUS! And I wanted to know what would it take to step into that persona. Now the reality is this: I AM NOT EVER GOING TO BE HIGH MAINTENANCE! Now there was a time in my life in my mid 20's that I rolled it out pretty well, but nothing like what I see now with women. Am I a bit envious...YES! Why? Because when you look good you feel good. And when you spend a moment on yourself it goes a long way.

Women like me who hold it down on all fronts aren't thinking lipstick, push-up bras and stilettos, we're thinking, play dates, carpool, music lessons and comfy sweatpants. This is not bad, but no one is looking at us and no one is thinking this is sexy. I DON"T CARE WHAT SOME OF YOU WELL APPOINTED MEN SAY...the truth is you all are not looking at women like me. So what I am saying is maybe "US" soccer moms have to step up our game. Not in competition with the HMW but allow our inner sexy to peek through. You can't tell how intelligent, witty and fabulously smart I am when I am rolling out in my sweats and sneaks, but if you check me in a more pulled together look, then my smile is bit sexier and my laugh is much more sultry and you can imagine being between the sheets with me, rather than imagining me doing the sheets---as in laundry!

The Love List 86-87
  • 86. Is not afraid to say: I WANT YOU.
  • 87. Aches for me, Longs for me, Dreams of me, Fantasizes about me.


Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

oh no not the high maintaince woman, i jus the plumberwho comes to fix the sink LOL

Lovebabz said...


Every Woman NEEDS a good plumber! A man who knows his way around pipes and brings the right tools for the big job. If he can't fix it, He will stay until the job is done...satisfaction guaranteed!

Let me if you are that kind of plumber.

the prisoner's wife said...

LOL@imaginging you not doing the sheets.

i feel you on this though. i'm not high maintenance by any stretch of the imagination, but you MUST keep your swagger up. you are so right, it does WONDERS for your confidence and allows others to see your inner light, that they might miss out on based on the outside packaging.

later for the stilettos, but give me a cute wedge heel & it's on a poppin!

Monique said...

Up to 87 on your love list, you're doing great! Keep up the good work. I kind of stopped at like 25. I'll give it another shot soon though.

Lovebabz said...

Sister TPW,
I LOVE a pair of wedgies too! And you are right we gotta keep the swagger up!

And you are right no matter what we do, we always have to do the sheets!