Tuesday, July 10, 2007


I just finished Florence Falk's book "On My Own, The Art of Being A Woman Alone" I was so moved by this book that I wanted to share this passage. It speaks to me on so many levels. I must say that it lights my path and helps me face my future with more courage and a grander sense of purpose. So here is one of my favorite passages from the book:
Aloness is a gift; it can return us to our own self. Instead of avoiding
it, we need to accept it whole-heartedly, even though we fear it. To rid
ourselves of our fears, we first need to understand their source. As our
fears diminish, we have a renewed opportunity to realize a life of our
own. Each relationship in our lives is a teaching; a way to learn what we
want and need for ourselves and what we are willing to give, or not give, in
order to get it. In this sense, aloness is a mirror wherein we may view
ourselves more wholly and affirmatively.


Heidi said...

I dig the passage you shared, lovebabz. It's wonderfully reflective of what you're going through right now.

I sometimes enjoy aloneness too much. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to die alone any more than the next person does. I just find that I crave me time more than most people. Does that mean I'm destined to live a solitary life with just me, myself, and 50 cats? God I hope not. I'm allergic to cats.

Lovebabz said...

Heidi, I am trying to rerame my thought about what aloness means. I beleive this will be a grand opportunity to think of my life in a way that I haven't done in quite sometime. Being married is about thinking about you and soemone else. Now I have kids so I can't act like a single chick. But I can focus more on what I want and need in order to become the woman I always dreamed I could be. Shit this ain't easy work. I am up to the call.