Sunday, July 15, 2007

King-Sized Bed for a Queen

Last night was my first official night as a separated spouse. I was way too lit to notice. However around 5:00 am I did notice. It was heartbreaking. But the good part was that for the last several months my husband has been staying out till all hours of the morning--he usually didn't get in till 3, 4, 5, 6, 7:00am. The Strip Clubs are open really late. He would be pissed if he knew I was talking about his Strip Club visits. Hey, I like Strip Clubs too--those women work hard for a buck. It wasn't as bad as I thought it was going to be. There is something quite liberating about having a big bed to yourself. My husband is a fool, but I do respect his decision to figure out who he is. I do not have that luxury of leaving...unless I want to add sorry-ass mother to my list of sins. I do not. I am clear about who I am. I always knew. I have long sense realized that you can't find out who you are in the eyes of friends, strangers or ridiculous notions of roles. My husband is in the mist of a crisis--a journey that he must walk on his own. He runs the risk of not having a caring wife, loving children and a community of friends that are trying to respect him. I have seen this movie. My own father was fucked-up like this and he never recovered. I, however remain Queen of my own thoughts and deeds. I have 4 kids to raise--so does he, but for me it is my life's work. So alone I go to my big king-sized bed, feeling pretty safe and ever hopeful about this life that I get to carve out, be it as a single woman or as a married woman. I can roll and roll and roll; hogging all the covers knowing in this moment I am OK! Bring on night number 2--late night movies, stupid TV shows and lots of magazines spread out...hey it's a king sized bed, I GOT LOT'S OF ROOM!

4 comments:

Tasses said...

I'm amazed by your positive outlook. You are a strong one. Very Best Wishes on your new chapter.

Lovebabz said...

Tasses,
Thank you for your kind words. I empowered by the fact that I must do what is necessary. I truly am choosing happiness and I know there are grander days ahead. I just have to hang in and press forward with a happy and courageous heart. Stop back by...I love the company!
Love,
Babz

jun said...

Hi. Tough transition but with the attitude, you can do it. Go girl!
I haven't seen your comment yet on my site. I'll go look-see gain. Best of luck!

thehub said...

You are gonna be fine! Love your outlook on life. thank you for stopping by my blog and commenting. You are an inspiration. I am going to get out the book and do as you suggest. I admire your strength, hang in there.