Wednesday, June 10, 2009


Last night was my first tango lesson...Argentine style. I was thrilled. Nervous. Excited. Ready. It was hard physically and intellectually. Physically, I don't have good balance--I am in poor physical shape. Intellectually it was was hard because as a woman you have to surrender the impulse to lead...take over.

Tango requires trust. Absolute trust. Willingness to be led. Even if your partner isn't strong you have to follow. Hhmm this was HARD. My first impulse is to correct. Takeover. Lead.

As we were switching partners throughout the class, I noticed very clearly that when I had a strong partner I was a better partner. I was more able to allow my partner to lead and I take the cues and follow. But when my partner was weak, I was weak and it was hard to stay focused and get our bearings. I could feel frustration setting in.

Tango is already teaching me something more than the art of walking. It is teaching me the art of surrendering. Trusting. And doing it all with grace and passion.

I am convinced that the Divine is using the Tango to teach me more about who I am and what I want.


Sista GP said...

Good for you! Fun, educational, exercise all in one.

ballroom dance lessons are on my mental "lifetime to do list"

The Real Ginger said...

Isn't it awesome how we can learn something from everything--in all situations.
The tango is haute! Can't wait for your future posts on this.

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

*clapping hands like a child*

GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm so happy you got to do something you always wanted to do. Yes, dance will teach you to follow. Salsa is the same way my dear. The man leads and the woman follows.

I went to my weekly Salsa class last night and yes, the stronger my partner the better we dance. I LOVE it when my partner flings me around the floor (now what does that say about my strong-woman-self in real life, LOL!)

I say again....GOOD FOR YOU!!!!

I need to find a tango class myself :)

MsKnowitAll said...

You know Sister Lovebabz... I have been feeling the same feelings on surrendering...

This is great... that you're taking tango lessons and at the same time open to life lessons. It's actually beautiful. Congratulations!!!

Moanerplicity said...

Wow! Video! I wants video of this! The Tango... that's mad sensual and cool as hell! I hope you get so polished at it that it becomes something you've known for. I admire the fact that you're embracing something new, my Sista.

Keep snatchin' JOY!



p.s. I WANTS video, yo! lol.

the prisoner's wife said...

when i read the descriptions..."Tango requires trust. Absolute trust. Willingness to be led. Even if your partner isn't strong you have to follow." i thought TADAAA, that's what LOVE is. That what relationships are.

i think everything you're doing right now is leading you to be the best Babz EVER!

Solomon said...

Good for you, keep it up and your balance will improve, and you will also get into "dancing shape"

Lovebabz said...

Sista GP
It was on my list of 1000 things to do before I die! LOL!

The Real Ginger,
Hello Sister! The whole world is my classroom. The Tango is indeed HAUTE! Even dancing with a stranger.

Kay C,
I have always wanted to learn to Tango. It is one of the most sensual dances ever. all the passion, drama. YOu can't do it and not feel all of that! And yes the Sals is the same...same roots too!

Lin (moanerplicities)
I am so not sharing video. You are gonna have to let your imagination run wild!!!! LOL! and you are right it is mad sensual and ultra cool.

I will indeed keep it up. I am so determined to master it...own it...make it mine!

Mizrepresent said...

You go girl, enjoy! And i so understand that surrendering part. I was stepping with someone once and he told me...will you let me lead? I was shocked, not knowing i was fighting him along the way but when i was smooth sailing.

A.u.n.t. Jackie said...

yup i think i mentioned that the man leads when you said you were taking the class...

how lovely for you i am very very proud! said...

Hi there!

I looove loooove the Tango!

You really have to be in shape to tango and people don't realize it....the dips and the turns and the technique...WOW.

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!

Anonymous said...

Tango? Sweet! Video coming soon?


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