Wednesday, February 13, 2008


In my earlier posts when I was overwhelmed with a broken heart as my husband unexpectedly announced He was leaving our marriage. I had an epiphany and realized then as I do now, THERE IS NO CONVINCING IN LOVE. And to that I add, there is no auditioning for love. There is only Love or Fear. You have to choose love. You have to choose love with all your being. You have to stand up for love. Accept no imitations. If you are afraid, then you are not ready. If you are hesitant, then you are not ready. If you accept mistreatment disguised as "all part of" then you are not ready.

God already loves you. God already accepts you. God already has your back. All you have to do is reach with arms wide open and let your heart not be troubled. If it hurts, it ain't love. If it is not joyous, it ain't love. If it is ambigious, it ain't love. If it is not truthful, it ain't love. We cannot make love into something we know in our hearts it is not. Love's definition is is We who are not.

1 Corinthians 13

13:1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
13:2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing.
13:3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
13:4 Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful;
13:5 it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;
13:6 it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
13:7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
13:8 Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
13:9 For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect;
13:10 but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away.
13:11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways.
13:12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood.
13:13 So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love.


CapCity said...

SISTAH LOVBabz! I don't get out much & apologize that I don't come & send U cyber hugz NEARLY as much as I should! IF u are able to make it to Andrew's Biz CAMP in CT - PLEASE tell him His buddy/author who sent him copy of Bloggers' Delight said Hello! My real name's on the book:-)...oh heck - Tell him Cordenia sent ya! One of my sister's got me all paranoid about being traceable on the internet! LOL! And I enjoyed this post cuz it's the truff - there IS NO HUMAN convincing luv....all we need to know is that GOD does LOVE us! thanx for that scripture, too!


Lovebabz said...

I am so happy you found time to come. Thanks! Besides your blog is hot and popping and I love coming over there! I feel your warm spirit! And if I show up to the Biz Camp, I definitely will let him know who sent me.

Jennifer said...

You have both astounding clarity and intuition!

Lovebabz said...

Thanks a million. I, like so many others are just trying to make our way with as much grace and dignity as we can.

Sister P said...

Wishing you love on V-day and always! (((Big Hugz)))


Sister,i like the way you stand up for love.Wishing you all the best.:)

Diva said...

That's wonderful!!!

That passage is beautiful. It was actually used in my wedding ceremony.

I wish you a wonderful day!

Princess TinyButt said...

amazing. just amazing. i have printed this and have it next to my bed. it just filled me, my soul! the sun is shinning here in beautiful hercules, ca and your words have mad my spirit sing!!

you words have truly made me FEEL better, like a cure. a blessing. yes you and your words are to me!!

contiue to stand up and fight for love my dear! all the best!

Lovebabz said...

Hey Sister P,
I am so glad you dropped in...HUGS to you too!

Lovebabz said...

Sister Bai Maleiha Bajunaid Candao,
---I love your name---so POWERFUL!
I know youa re standing with me so it makes it a lot easier! Wishing you all the best too!

Lovebabz said...

Hey Diva,

yes lots of folks use it as part of their wedding ceremony. But really you don't know just how beautiful it is until you sit with it.
Happy Valentine's Day!

Lovebabz said...

Princess Tinybutt,
Thank you kindly. I am beyond honored and moved. You have lifted my spirits with your Paris photos and it felt like I was there with you!

K.O. Johnson said...

I LOVED THIS POST!!! God knows that he revealed the exact scripture to me in a hotel room in Philly many years ago. In the middle to what may have been the most intense telephone argument I've ever encountered, something told me to open the nightstand drawer and turn to Corinthians. A few passages later, I knew what had to be done. So glad I found you this morning. Happy Writing!

Lovebabz said...

K.O. Johnson,
I am glkad you found me too!
It is those moments that the call of God is so strong that it saves our lives. I am glad you listened in Philly. God is still speaking.

Sharon said...

I am slowly making my way through the links on BD2 Write and I am major league glad I got to you! I guess its true that things happen in their own time; but yet again, I find myself wishing I'd gotten here sooner!

You are an amazing writer, but even more astonishing is the ability you possess to uncover additional optimism in the heart of one like me who would have sworn that she was already letting all the optimism she has inside hang out! Now I know that was not true!

Recently having had my heart broken by the unexpected departure of my husband from our short-lived marriage, I too am moving past a divorce. Like you, I refuse to blame love for my loss and look forward with eagerness, enthusiasm, and anticipation to the love for which I am currently being prepared. Having come here I find that the levels of anticipation have been increased to the nth power thanks to you.

I will return here daily as I require routine nourishment ;)

Love -- your spot -- Babz!

Lovebabz said...

I so appreciate your post. I appreciate your kind words and I appreciate the fact that you found something of value in what I have to share.

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