Tuesday, May 19, 2009


I have been listening to Elizabeth Edwards. I saw her on Larry King and I was so moved by her spirit. I have no opinion on what she should or shouldn't do. I have to stand in my own life.

In my life I know about love and forgiveness and kindness and tenderness. Forgiveness really is the gift you give yourself. I have done it and have been all the better for it. I have asked for it and have been all the better for asking. I do know that love is love, even when it is placed upon the undeserving. Aren't we all undeserving?...except children and babies. We make messes of our lives. We play games...We lie...We are cowardly about what's on our hearts. We let our worst fears drive us in our relationships. Our neediness grips us like a vice and we act from a place of fear rather than a place of love. We all do it. We all have done it.

I am convinced that anything can be forgiven. It depends on how long you want to wallow in mess. It depends on your readiness to move forward. It depends on your capacity to love fully. Some folks you have to walk away from. You got what you needed and their part in your story is done. Sometimes their part caused you a great deal of heartache. It may have turned your life upside down. They may have let you down when you needed them the most. Whatever the grievance, pain, hurt, offense. You have to decide how long you want to bear it. How long you want to wear it...live with it. So you see I am not mad at Mrs. Edwards. We all have to stand in our own lives and look in our closets. There are some I am sure would say to me you should have done.... or why did you do.... All I know is I have an amazing capacity for love. That I have forgave and been forgiven.

My favorite line I ever heard was from the play A Raisin In The Sun. Walter Lee finds out that the guy he gave the insurance money for the liquor store ran off with all the money. Walter's Sister Beneatha is devastated, she goes on to say he is not worth loving. The Mother delivers this line and it stops me cold every time!

“There is always something left to love. And if you ain’t learned that, you ain’t learned nothing….Have you cried for that boy today? I don’t mean for yourself and for the family ‘cause we lost the money. I mean for him; what he been through and what it done to him. Child, when do you think it is the time to love somebody the most; when they done good and made things easy for everybody? Well then, you ain’t through learnin’….”

12:30PM EST


Her Side said...

Oh dear. Methinks you were anointed to bring the truth, good news, and necessity of love to our ears.

I am officially on strike at my own blog, but I think bringing some of your wise words to my readers just may not count as cheating. LOL

I hope you don't mind me linking over while folks wait for me to put down my picket sign... :-)

Lovebabz said...

Her Side,
LOL! annointed! Ha ha ha!

Look you are welcome to share anything I write here with your readers. Mi casa...su casa!

Light & Love said...

Absolutely right on time. I have been harboring unforgiveness and bitterness towards people who may not even know they offended me...and I don't get offended easily. This is awesome and just what I needed to read this day.

Yet again, I give thanks and love for your wisdom and words.

The Artist In Me said...

Love eminates from you Love, and I love it! More people should think of love like the quote from the raisin in the sun.

It is easy for us to think of ourselves, and not of the other that has done us wrong. As I tell folks all the time...those that do wrong don't get away scott free. They live with their own torment, and probably more torment than the one they have wronged.

Be blessed!

Solomon said...

What a wonderful post. It is just re-enforcing the new attitude I have adopted lately. I have fiven it up, and truely live each day in the spirit of forgiveness.

Every morning when I get up, and every night before going to sleep, I ask Him for forgiveness for all the wrongs I have done in my long debacle filled life, then I let Him know that I forgive everyone that has wronged me.

I like what you said, "That some folks you need to walk away from", this is so true, many of those that have hurt me, or wronged me are still very toxic, and I just can't associate with these folks anymore. That doesn't mean that I can't let go, and quit harboring the resentments from our history, because I have learned how to do that, but I don't need to be exposed to the toxic attitudes and behaviors that caused me such pain in the past.

Forgiving someone doesn't mean I need to hang with the people that have wronged me and leave myself open for more abuse. I just need to let go of the past and forgive them, for they are sick people.

I also need to remember that those that wrong others do live with what they have done, and many times they live with much more torment than the person that was wronged.

Great post

Insatiable One said...

Wooooo Jesus! That quote moved me to my core! My core, you hear me? That is the most profound thing ever. Lawd have mercy, I feel like i'm having chu'ch over here.