Wednesday, May 20, 2009


Black Divorced Mom Seeking (BDM).

So I have a profile up a dating site (see profile below). I've had it up for a couple of months now. I have not responded to any of the inquires to my profile. Why? Because I haven't come across anyone that interests me. They all seem the same: What's up...I am this, that or the other thing. I like walks on the beach, athletic, bubble baths, movies...yada yada yada...yawn. Or they will post pictures of their abs, or some other part of their body they think is attractive or will turn women on...yawn. Don't get me wrong I love walks on the beach...bubble music...jazz. I just want to be wowed with authenticity. I want a response that isn't cliched. I want to by pass all the nonsense and have a conversation where I am heard and he's heard and we are in a lovely exchange of ideas and opinions. Is this outrageaous?

It's been a very long time since I talked with a man who held my attention and excited me.
There's got to be men out there who can atleast hold a conversation...flirt...laugh...share.
I am not without my own set of insecurities and shortcomings and human failings. He has to know that we are all just human beings and not hold my frailities against I will not hold his against him. He has to be willing to get to know me...I am not an easy woman to know. I am not as open as this blog seems. I am guarded and not easily forthcoming. I am however quite charming and I have a big laugh. So if you know of any men who might be engaging, interesting, kind, tender and looking for someone like me send them my way. Thanks.

Here's my profile:

A little about me...I am Sister who is determined to live the very best life possible. I believe love waits on welcome, not on time. I am an optimist by nature and a lover of all humanity. I love a good joke and can cuss like a sailor. I am a beer snob and jazz is my gospel.
What are you looking for in a partner?

I want a man who knows who he is. Must walk the world in confidence. Whatever fears he has, he does not allow them to cripple him, his spirit or his heart.
I'd just like to add...I am an avid reader and talker. I love raising children. I love fine wine. I love TV and radio. I want to be a Gardener. I am a citizen of the world.


Solomon said...

You're a good catch Lovebabz, I'm sure you'll meet the man of your dreams. Just when you think it isn't happening, that special someone will come your way.

Her Side said...

Love your profile. You could even use some of this blog post in your profile, e.g.:

I want to by pass all the nonsense and have a conversation where I am heard and he's heard and we are in a lovely exchange of ideas and opinions...

It's been a very long time since I talked with a man who held my attention and excited me.
(For some reason, I love this point. It speaks to the lack of substance you've encountered in recent travels.)There's got to be men out there who can at least hold a conversation... flirt...laugh...share.This additional text alone says a lot about who you are and what you expect from any relationship you allow in your life.

princessdominique said...

Yes from what I can see/tell/read you are well rounded and MORE fashionable than you think! There are no limits to where you can meet people. As long as you know what you want and don't accept anything less. I must add you are BRAVE!

princessdominique said...

I'm with Her Side, that's a perfect way to start off the profile.

LadyLee said...

I think that you hit upon the issue: where are the authentic men?

Good post... and stick to your standards, Babz... Settle for nothing less!

Keith said...

Your Prince's ship will come ashore soon Lovebabz...Just don't be at the airport when it does!

flutter said...

any man would be lucky to have you.

Lovebabz said...

Thank you!

Her Side,
I think you are right I will add soem this to my profile :)

Brave? Ha Ha...well I am something... LOL!

I am sticking to my standards :)

LOL! I will keep that in mind...but a girl just can't sit and wait at home :)

How are you! You are too kind!

Dallas Black said...

Nice profile miss lady. I think the site you chose to post your profile had a small amount of members...consider casting your net wider with another site. How many pictures are in your profile? Multiple pictures including some of you "engaged" in fun activities may be helpful. BDM? You are so much more than that...that classification makes me cringe a bit....carry on!

Single Mom Seeking said...

LOVE your profile, too! Good for you for screening men. It's true: you are a catch, and not just any catch.... so proud of you!!

Rich Fitzgerald said...

Love can't be found
For it never announces its arrival

It takes up residence
The moment you think the door is closed

Lovebabz said...

Dallas Black,
Thank you very much. And I do think you are right. Perhaps a wider net casted is just what is needed. Oh and you are right...I am so much more than these few mere words can capture...but you know we don't get room for an encylopedia...LOL!

Single Mom Seeking,
THank you for saying so! Now to be catched...LOL!

What a great sentiment...I am so putting this on a card! it will be my daily reminder...Thank you!