Tuesday, June 3, 2008

TRUE LOVE TUESDAY: FEAR AND INTIMIDATION

Being threatened in the blog world is scary. I have heard tales of cyber-stalkers, blog wars and men preying on women. I have not had any of these experiences until recently. A fellow blogger, Don Christopher Smith, Don, Minus the Bars has let it be known that he is unhappy about an anonymous post I left on his now defunct blog. He has threatened to exact revenge. Not only against me but a few other female bloggers for other reasons that I am not privy to.

I do not know this man, except that I frequented his blog, we spoke about collaborating on some prose and he penned two lovely poems for my birthday. So his threats are at best over the top. I sent him an email and notified authorities of his threats.

I do not scare easily. I never have. He has threatened to meet me at a conference that I am attending in Atlanta in July. He has asked other bloggers about my whereabouts. As I said I am not afraid of him or anyone else. I know men like him, who think that pushing up on women is power. I am not sure what his delusion is. I am not sure what his fascination with me is. But I tell you what, I will not be moved by him or anyone else. I will not tremble, hide, or walk in fear. I just want him to know that.

Don Christopher Smith I am not afraid of you. I am not running from you. And I am certainly not shutting my blog down because of you.

33 comments:

laurie said...

ohmy. I am so sorry this happened. You are way, way better than him.

Tony OH said...

Don't even dignify that ish with a response, you're COVERED...Period!

Just Like My Brotha ALL-MI-T

Don't trip!

Lovebabz said...

Hey Laurie,
Some men just can't get that you are NOT into them!

Happy Birthday Tony OH!
Hoping a year's worth of hugs and kisses all for today!

the prisoner's wife said...

wow...are you SERIOUS?

people are retarded & got too much time on their hands.

Lovebabz said...

Hey TPW,
Yes indeed. Way too much time! LOL!

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

folk we in the ATL

Lovebabz said...

Hi Torrance,

I am looking forward to my ATL visit!

sista gp said...

Those whose exact revenge, necessary or not, onto others is playing with God. That is HIS right. Even HE does not execute that right, but gives the opposite, LOVE.

I'm new to the blogosphere and have read several posts regarding this drama. I have kept quiet (mostly), but had to respond to you.

Sista, I commend you on your stand. I’ve experienced situations where men (and women) have tried intimidation as a means of conversion to their will. Unfortunately (for them), their actions fueled my fire to stand strong and never yield.

You have the support of other female (and male) bloggers, so do not succumb and continue to live as you please and do what you love, blog.

even my hubby from Cleveland, OH could never (or would ever try to) stop me from my writing (or blog)

Sista GP

CapCity said...

like Laurie I am disappointed that this has infected your Loving Blog. Maybe Luv is what he needs...I can't find the exact quote - but it says in the Bible: Father forgive them for they know not what they do!

I'm praying & sending hugz;-)

Lovebabz said...

Hey Sister GP,
I am so in agreement with you. I do so appreciate the support!

Thanks Capcity!
This will not stop the love or keep me form standing in love. This is just reinforces my belief that there are so many wounded souls out there who need to feel the warmth of love and kindness. He is in need of love.

dc_speaks said...

what the hell? mannnn, i'm sorry you have to experience this type of nonsense.

Lovebabz said...

Hey DC Speaks!

Yes it is a bit too much isn't it! But perhaps he will come to his senses and go on about his business of his own life.

Stephen Bess said...

I like your spirit concerning this whole matter. It's good that you are not intimidated. Stay strong sister. This too shall pass.

Lovebabz said...

Hey Stephen Bess,

Thank you. I cannot allow someone to run me out of myself. Bully's have to be stood up to.

Aunt Jackie said...

see this kinda stuff right here brings out the East Oakland in me and makes me wanna Vasaline up my face, tie up my hair and take off my earrings.

I will say first and foremost that a man who threatens a woman...ANY MAN is not really man at all.

I've seen allot of drama on these blogs since I started, a chick faked her own death and then posed as her sister to see who would miss her...this really really happened, and I'm aware that there are some sick tickets with computers and unlimited internet access..I will say this.

File a police report
keep all threatening emails and keep a log of all threatening phone calls and/or interaction
and do not hesitate in pressing charges...

Anyone who claims to not be scared of going to jail is a liar!

Ali's Zay said...

What da fuck!?!?

Lovebabz said...

Aunt Jackie,
Sister, THANK YOU! I appreciate your support and I feel your care and concern.

Monica said...

I respect you for putting him on notice. His behavior is unacceptable.

Aunt Jackie said...

lovebaz I got your back...period dot!

bloggers please take note of this behaviour and do your best to be your best and not let this continue.

The Bear Maiden said...

Some people just have way too much time on their hands. Some others just have no manners and no home trainin.

And some are bullies.

And bullies only work in secret, so it's good you shouted him out. But don't spend too much time on it.... he's already gotten too much attention.

Lovebabz said...

Hey Monica,
I could not let him think he could just threaten me via email and I just let him do it. So I just had to post it. The more folks that see it the safer I become.

Aunt Jackie,
Sister, I KNOW you have my back!
And thank from the bottom of my heart!

The Bear Maiden,
YES! Bully is tight. And you know you gotta stand up to a bully otherwise they will punk you for ever.

sisterlo said...

donald christopher smith, if anything happens to Babz, the devil will appear in a form that you have seen before, because you have not learned your lesson. If anything happens to Babz, he will bring pain and sorrow unlike anything you've ever experienced, imagined, or penned.

So, let it be said, so let it be written.....

sisterlo said...

donald christopher smith, if anything happens to Babz, the devil will appear in a form that you have seen before, because you have not learned your lesson. If anything happens to Babz, he will bring pain and sorrow unlike anything you've ever experienced, imagined, or penned.

So, let it be said, so let it be written.....

Princess Tinybutt said...

that's right - no fear. but please, please, please be careful my love.

ptb

Princess Tinybutt said...

that's right - no fear. but please, please, please be careful my love.

ptb

Lovebabz said...

My Beloved Sister Lo,
You of all people know I am not going to let someone make me afraid to walk the earth. You know how I am and what I am capable of more so than anybody on the planet.

Lovebabz said...

Princess,

I am well and I will continue to be well. I am not afraid of this man and I am not going to run becuase he says boo.

Thank you fo ryour conver...you have bigger fish to fry. Don't trouble yourself over this foolishness

KELSO'S NUTS said...

LOVEBABZ: It's not anything to worry about and you know that. Really bad trouble doesn't arrive like that. It surprises you. It doesn't announce itself.

I second the thoughts of all who said be careful, though.

I got way too many people in Atlanta for you to worry about this, anyway. If you get scared, you know how to reach me privately. Or ask T. Give me a few hours lead time to arrange it and you'll have someone watching you and keeping you safe around the clock. And you'll have no idea that they are there. Your privacy will be respected and your fun will not be impinged upon in any way. Nobody will be hurt unless someone tries something SUPER FOOLISH and everything will be just fine. All legal and above board.

Lovebabz said...

Kelso,

Thank you for your care and concern.

KELSO'S NUTS said...

LOVEBABZ: My pleasure. I sent you an email, explaining the drill in slightly more detail. So you know it's for real and you have options.

Your friends on the telegraph-wire love you and want you to be safe and happy and relaxed.

Eb the Celeb said...

thx 4 your note!

The Artist In Me said...

Who would think that something of this magnitude would take place on a blog site. However, as a woman who believes in God, you have the best protection ever. He will see to it that you are just fine, whether by divine intervention or the people that He puts in your circle.

Be blessed!

Lovebabz said...

Kelso,
You tell my friends onthe telegraph wire that I LOVE them too and I am grateful for the care and concern!

Het EB,
Just be mindful and careful. Some men are fueled by powerful women who say NO!

AIM,
Yes I know. But some Men have serious issues with themselves and need to try to punk women to feel powerful.

I feel safe.