Tuesday, September 16, 2008


What makes us beautiful or pretty in someone else's eyes? Is it solely about how we look or is it a combination of things. Is it our personality and the way we carry ourselves in the world. Or is it because we look great in couture clothes and shoes. I am without question a beautiful woman. I am not a pretty woman. I am not cute. I am beautiful, charming and witty. These are the things I have been told. Do I believe them? Do I need to have someone else believe them? What we believe either traps us or frees us. What we believe either allows us to live a life more fully present or a life in the shadows waiting for that thing to free our spirits. That thing to give us permission to love fully. That thing is often other's opinions and judgements that confines us. We look for acceptance and love from the outside instead of tuning out the world's noise and coming into our love from the inside. Beauty radiates from inside.

Saturday was my brother's wedding, but it was as much my coming out day as well. I looked amazing. I had a gorgeous purple and lavender silk dress that complimented my beautiful skin, I wore 4 inch stiletto sling-back shoes that made my legs look like Tina Turner's...yes those high heels were magical...and painful. I had great jewelry, my make-up was flawless, my smile was 1000 watts. I was runway FINE! I knew it and I felt it. My positive energy was such that I could feel people drawn into me. I could feel people wanting to be near me. I haven't felt that way in a long time. Saturday I truly felt like myself and everyone around me knew it. I was owning my sexy. I was owning my glam and I was owning my grown womaness.

It is nice for anyone to think you are beautiful, or lovely or nice or kind. I have to come to realize that it is my honest opinion of myself that raises myself esteem. I can be my own worst critic or my own biggest fan. It is a choice. I can get caught up in thinking I am not beautiful enough, or I can accept my beauty right now. It is a choice. I can get caught up in thinking if only I was thinner and put off doing things waiting for the weight to drop or I can live my best life right now. It is a choice.

Best line I heard from a guy at the reception " You have a smile that can change a man's life" Shoot! How can you not get high off that!

My brother Bob-O's wedding was FABULOUS! He looked beautiful, the bride was stunning, the day was lovely. I will post my photos later in the week.


Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

*Nodding and smiling for you*

Dearest Lovebabz,

Congratulations on finding you. It feels good doesn't it? I am so happy for you. Now, you have to remember that feeling to help you get through the next rough spot. That compliment was absolutely amazing! But, I am sure it was true ;)

Oh yeah...were can I buy these amazing pumps that make your legs look like Tina's? (lol)

Shai said...

That's nice you were feeling so good.
Where are the pics at Mz. Tina? LOL>

Lovebabz said...

Sister Kay C, the quiet storm
I feel like a switch was flipped on. I really came into my own on Saturday. I felt more myself than I have in years. I am truly coming from underneath it all.

The shoes I found them in TJ Maxx & More months ago. I will post them later this week! LOL!

Hey Shai,
I am no so sure there are many of me. I was so busy snapping up the bride and groom and guests and family!

clnmike said...

Yes lets see the pics.

Stephen Bess said...

Wow! Brothers can tell you some things can't they. I even amaze myself at times. I go, "Did I just say that?" :) Sounds like a nice wedding. Congrats to your brother.

MzTeeJaye said...

Your writing generates that same kind of magnetism...I look forward to reading your posts

laurie said...

This post brought a big, big smile to my face. xox

Lovebabz said...

pictures are forthcoming. Although not many of me...LOL!

Hey Stephen Bess,
But that is the beauty of Brothers, they will step to you in way that is so breath-taking!

Hey Sister MzTeejaye
Thank you kindly. I greatly appreciate your interest in reading anything I have to say!

A Go Bytch said...

I love when people get married I get all emotional with happiness! Is beauty skin deep?...people like to say no but I say yes beauty is only skin deep! But I think there are more important things than being beautiful! Good answer?

Go B.

Lovebabz said...

Hey AGB,
I love wedding too! Something about public commitments that makes me smile!
Yes beauty is just skin deep. And yes we know there are more important attributes..but really we are all victims of beauty biases...LOL!

Lovebabz said...

Hey Laurie,
I am glad I was able to bring a smile to your very pretty face!

I am feeling good! Damned GOOD!

flutter said...

your smile is blindingly gorgeous, and REAL.

Lovebabz said...

You flatter! THANK YOU! Trying to get as gorgeous as you!