Sunday, September 28, 2008


I believe that life is full of lessons. Some repetitive and some completely what I need at that moment to move me forward. If I am stubborn and unyielding I am destined to repeat the lesson until duh I get it! Sometimes the lessons are a knife to the heart. My divorce was like that. The relationship ended. But it hasn't ended really. I mean we are still in each other's life because we have children. So the romantic part has ended but the parental role remains.

Is anything really over? Yes. But some things remain. They remain because we have to grow better in our humanity, and we have to learn love. When one relationships is over and done it does not mean every relationship in your life ends. Nor does it mean you will never get another loveship. Now if you do not grow and look at your role in the demise of the relationship. Guess what? You will get the same relationship again until you learn the lesson. Sometimes you do things right and the lesson is saying you are doing things right with the wrong mate.

Life lessons are maps to move us forward. To get us to be in the moment. To enjoy the here and now. And to see who we fully are.

I hold no illusions about who I am. I maybe a queen, but I am no princess. I have weathered storms. I have loved. I have learned some lessons that got me right here right now. I am in love with the woman I am. I know the lessons in front of me are teaching me how to be more of myself in the grandest way.


Pajnstl said...

great post!

Lovebabz said...

Thank you Pajnstl!

flutter said...

You are amazing.

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

u should be in concert on sundays - at the park

Lovebabz said...

You are going to have to come by every post and say those kind words!

Hi Torrance,
LOL! You are right!

Aretha said...

You hit it dead on...I'm walking around with several lessons learned in my pocket and I'm better for it. Nice post.

By the way, I found you via Go Bytch's page.

Lovebabz said...

Hi Aretha,
Welcome! Any Sister friend of AGB is a Sister-friend of mine!

I am honored you found anything I had t say of interest. Thank you.

Drop in as often as you like. You are loved here.

Moanerplicity said...

I share so much of your philosophy that it's scary sometimes. I know for a fact that Life is all about Lessons. Good or bad, if we take something positive from the lesson we are all the better for it. My feeling is this: Life is about learning and Loving and learning to love & learning how & when to love & loving the lessons we learn about love.

Did that make any sense? It does to me.

Great post, my Sista.

Snatch JOY!


Lovebabz said...

Moanerplicity, Brother we are related...connected! I know you get me at your core and I you!

Makes sense to me.