Tuesday, July 28, 2009

TRUE LOVE TUESDAY: SEEING ME FROM YOUR POINT OF VIEW

Loving someone requires you to hear things about yourself that will hurt. If the person loves you and supports you, then their observations of your life will come wrapped in love and support. I am not talking about tearing someone down, or manipulating their feelings so you can keep them under your thumb. I am not talking about people who talk to you with foul intentions, abusive in nature and mean in delivery. I am talking about lovingly helping someone become the best possible them they can be.

Seeing yourself through someone else's eyes can be tricky. It requires trust and high self esteem. You gotta know who you are and be willing to hear the analysis without feeling like you are being attacked or criticized unfairly. This is where it becomes hard for me. I am still carrying some baggage...albeit small carry-ons of my former marriage. In that marriage criticism was often brutal and mean spirited. So if I think you are attacking me then I retreat.

What I am learning (thanks to my blood sister Lo & Sister-friend JB) is that I have to stand in the space of fear and stare it down in this new found loveship. This MAN is not THAT man. The woman I am today is the not the same woman yesterday. There has been growth and meaningful self analysis. I am loving the way that I am coming to love right now.

Love stretches us to truth, to clarity to love deeper. I want to love deeper. In order to love deeper I have to be open and living with a full heart.

The Love Story continues....

LOVETALK IS ON VACATION TODAY
WILL BE BACK NEXT WEEK!

2 comments:

The Ink said...

Love the sweet smell of Self-actualization in the morning. Yaaaaaaay you.

Solomon said...

I liked this, it reminds me that we all change and hopefully as we change we are growing. I know from my experience I have grown more in the last couple years than I would have ever imagined doing.

I also like the fact that I have someone in my life that is growing along with me. Life is a learning process, and growing comes right along with learning.

There isn't any reason to look back and dwell on past mistakes. If God can forgive me everyday for my mistakes, I am willing to forgive my friends for their past mistakes also. This is all part of my growing process. Being able to forgive and let love into my heart.