Friday, October 10, 2008

FAITH FORWARD FRIDAY: I AM FOR YOU

I want to hear a man say to me, LoveBabz I am for you! Truly. I appreciate folks wanting to hear I love you. I do. But for me at this place in this big life. I need to know someone is on my side, watching my back, cheering me on, building me up, loving me with deeds and actions.

Everyday in my marriage I heard I love you. My ex was freely throwing it around. But his actions were not loving. So the words began to ring hollow. The words I love you are not hollow to me now, but I have learned that I need to hear and feel, LoveBabz I am for you. That speaks to love and to commitment and staying power.

I am a WOMAN for action. Words are only as solid and strong as the deeds that follow. It is not enough to speak of love, I want and need acts of love. I want the same as I am willing to give.

If I love you, you will know it. If you love me, I will know it.

12 comments:

professor said...

to me actions speak louder than words...I don't need to hear the sentiment...actions, buddy, actions...if I'm in a mood, help me out...if I'm overwhelmed, step in...it's all in the thought and actions...

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

Me too, sister. Me too!!!!

I heard the words I love you in my marriage so much that I really didn't care to ever hear them again. Now, I too want someone to not only tell me, but more importantly show me.

Show me that you love me. Actions speak so much louder. Ironically, I had this exact conversation last night with one of the men I celebrated this week ;)

Lovebabz said...

Hey Professor,
Yes! YES! YES!

Kay C, the Quiet Storm,
I am getting it quite clearly now! I am clear in what I need.

MzTeeJaye said...

I want that too!

clnmike said...

LoveBabz I am for you.

Aunt Jackie said...

I like this. I like your clarity. I say often that I don't wan the map I want the territory, which is to say that I don't want the representative I wan the real thing.

Nothing else will do, even when I try. I'm allegic to cheap shit and no good men. Its just the way I'm made!

Lovebabz said...

MzTeeJaye,
I know! Wouldn't that be divine!

Clnmike,
You have no idea how big a smile you just put on my face! Thank you!

Hey AJ,
Sister I am with you! We must be Sisters!

Hawa Bond said...

"Love is a verb." It took me a long time to really digest those words, because I too heard it a lot but saw the disparity in action.

I am so thankful for my fiance. He was the icing on the cake of learning the verb called "LOVE."

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flutter said...

you will find it and it will be beautiful

GoteeMan said...

I am with you and professor... actions are what counts...

I'd rather have action without words than words without action...

Hang in there, lovebabz, and settle for nothing less...

J/ (goteeman.blogspot.com)

Moanerplicity said...

I said it before, & I'll say it again: Love is a VERB!

We've always got to make Love an action, not a word or expression. Actions speak louder than any pretty words.


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Princess Tinybutt said...

yes, action. fortunately, i know it in a way that is amazing (as you know), and i so wish this for you my love.