Wednesday, April 8, 2009

TENDERNESS...AND THE BLOG MAKEOVER IS DONE!

For a long while I was mistaking kindness for tenderness...meaning as I was diligently saying I wanted someone who was kind. What I really meant was I want someone who is tender or better still, tender with me, showing tenderness toward me.

Oh I still have kindness and being kind at the top of my list. But tenderness is the front runner. It occurred to me that I want someone to extend themselves graciously on my behalf. To speak to me with a loving tone and joyous disposition. When I say I've had the most marvelous day, I don't want to be barked at about how everyday should be marvelous, or something to that effect. What I want to hear is how so...do tell tell, share with me about your marvelous day. See that is loving and tender.

I am a romantic who lives in the day to day world. I make every effort to see the bloom of the day as a miracle. I am not divorced from the problems of the world. I am not divorced from human suffering and frailty. But in my home and in my life the intimate details and the way I choose to think and feel are rooted in love and tenderness.

HOORAY THIS IS THE NEW LOOK OF THE BLOG! I LOVE IT! BUT IT IS A BITCH TO GO BACK AND ADD ALL MY WIDGETS AND SUCH! SO OVER THE NEXT FEW DAYS I WILL BE ADDING ALL MY FAMILIAR BUTTONS ETC. I LOVE LOVE LOVE ROSES!

19 comments:

Sista GP said...

LOVE IT! LOVE IT!
This layout is definitely you!

Lovebabz said...

YES! YES! YES! THIS IS SOOOOO ME!

OMG when I saw it I was HOOKED! But I still looked at other templates. But this one WON me over! LOL!

Thank you for loving it too!

Mich said...

LOVE the new look!!

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

looks nice and girly

Go B. said...

I LOVE IT... IT'S SO NICE! I LOVE FLOWERS TOO ALL KINDS ..LOL

gO.

LadyLee said...

Okay, I knew I would come over here and see a burst of flowers... It is so YOU. Go BABZ!!

pserendipity said...

I like it!! This is just how I imagine you in my mind. Like a rose.

chele said...

First time here. I like how you distinguish between kindness and tenderness. I think that is something we all need.

MsKnowitAll said...

The new layout is so you! I too LOVE IT! Pizam!

Now to the post... Sis, you hit it on the head. I think we all go for "kind". It's a more common word of use but "tenderness" that's something much more layered.

caratime2 said...

it looks marvelous! and i am so glad that i can leave comments w/o a problem now....

Rich Fitzgerald said...

What a pleasant surprise. We've never met in person, but from the conversations we've had, this is you.

Rich Fitzgerald said...

By the way, your kind and tender explanation helped a brother see the light a bit more. So often people say one thing and mean something different and as a man when you are trying to give a woman what she SAID and it turns out not to be exactly what she wants, it is oh so frustrating.

Lovebabz said...

Mich,
THANKS!

Torrance,
Thanks...and yes...I am a GIRL! LOL!

GoB,
You inspired me to change it. Do you remembr you suggested that it was time to change :) Thank you it was a push in the right direction!

Dr. Ladylee,
Yes indeed it is me. A burst of color and blooms! LOL!

Chele,
Thanks for stopping over! Don't be a stranger! You are always welcome here!

Pserendipty,
Sister thank you! I knew I wanted it to be feminine but not pink pink pink! this speaks to me!

MsKNowItAll,
Thank YOU! You know ther is a decided difference in kindness and tenderness. It is hard to shake out but if you are still and you pay attention it become clear what the difference are. Ia m glad you were able to see what I was trying to articulate :)

Caratime2
HOW DIVINE TO HAVE YOU VISIT! You have been missed! I am glad you are able to post without problems. ((HUGS))

Rich Fitgerald,
Brother, I am so pleased that anything I said resonated with you. I am glad you like the new look! It suits me :)

Solomon said...

Love the new look!

I like your explanation of the difference between kindness and tenderness, it makes a brother think.

flutter said...

whoa! It is so SPRINGY!

BaWinn said...

LOVES IT!

blackwomenblowthetrumpet.blogspot.com said...

Hey there! Lovebabz!

Congratulations on the new makeover!

It looks very feminine!

As for the post, there IS a difference between kindness and tenderness.

Showing tenderness involves an understanding of the emotional constitution of another person.

Peace, blessings and godliness!
Lisa

The Bear Maiden said...

Girlie, it's BEAUTIFUL!!!! AND JOYOUS!!!! What a wonderful change. Congratulations!!!

MzTeeJaye said...

I am loving the new look!