For a long while I was mistaking kindness for tenderness...meaning as I was diligently saying I wanted someone who was kind. What I really meant was I want someone who is tender or better still, tender with me, showing tenderness toward me.
Oh I still have kindness and being kind at the top of my list. But tenderness is the front runner. It occurred to me that I want someone to extend themselves graciously on my behalf. To speak to me with a loving tone and joyous disposition. When I say I've had the most marvelous day, I don't want to be barked at about how everyday should be marvelous, or something to that effect. What I want to hear is how so...do tell tell, share with me about your marvelous day. See that is loving and tender.
I am a romantic who lives in the day to day world. I make every effort to see the bloom of the day as a miracle. I am not divorced from the problems of the world. I am not divorced from human suffering and frailty. But in my home and in my life the intimate details and the way I choose to think and feel are rooted in love and tenderness.
HOORAY THIS IS THE NEW LOOK OF THE BLOG! I LOVE IT! BUT IT IS A BITCH TO GO BACK AND ADD ALL MY WIDGETS AND SUCH! SO OVER THE NEXT FEW DAYS I WILL BE ADDING ALL MY FAMILIAR BUTTONS ETC. I LOVE LOVE LOVE ROSES!
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LOVE IT! LOVE IT!
This layout is definitely you!
YES! YES! YES! THIS IS SOOOOO ME!
OMG when I saw it I was HOOKED! But I still looked at other templates. But this one WON me over! LOL!
Thank you for loving it too!
LOVE the new look!!
looks nice and girly
I LOVE IT... IT'S SO NICE! I LOVE FLOWERS TOO ALL KINDS ..LOL
gO.
Okay, I knew I would come over here and see a burst of flowers... It is so YOU. Go BABZ!!
I like it!! This is just how I imagine you in my mind. Like a rose.
First time here. I like how you distinguish between kindness and tenderness. I think that is something we all need.
The new layout is so you! I too LOVE IT! Pizam!
Now to the post... Sis, you hit it on the head. I think we all go for "kind". It's a more common word of use but "tenderness" that's something much more layered.
it looks marvelous! and i am so glad that i can leave comments w/o a problem now....
What a pleasant surprise. We've never met in person, but from the conversations we've had, this is you.
By the way, your kind and tender explanation helped a brother see the light a bit more. So often people say one thing and mean something different and as a man when you are trying to give a woman what she SAID and it turns out not to be exactly what she wants, it is oh so frustrating.
Mich,
THANKS!
Torrance,
Thanks...and yes...I am a GIRL! LOL!
GoB,
You inspired me to change it. Do you remembr you suggested that it was time to change :) Thank you it was a push in the right direction!
Dr. Ladylee,
Yes indeed it is me. A burst of color and blooms! LOL!
Chele,
Thanks for stopping over! Don't be a stranger! You are always welcome here!
Pserendipty,
Sister thank you! I knew I wanted it to be feminine but not pink pink pink! this speaks to me!
MsKNowItAll,
Thank YOU! You know ther is a decided difference in kindness and tenderness. It is hard to shake out but if you are still and you pay attention it become clear what the difference are. Ia m glad you were able to see what I was trying to articulate :)
Caratime2
HOW DIVINE TO HAVE YOU VISIT! You have been missed! I am glad you are able to post without problems. ((HUGS))
Rich Fitgerald,
Brother, I am so pleased that anything I said resonated with you. I am glad you like the new look! It suits me :)
Love the new look!
I like your explanation of the difference between kindness and tenderness, it makes a brother think.
whoa! It is so SPRINGY!
LOVES IT!
Hey there! Lovebabz!
Congratulations on the new makeover!
It looks very feminine!
As for the post, there IS a difference between kindness and tenderness.
Showing tenderness involves an understanding of the emotional constitution of another person.
Peace, blessings and godliness!
Lisa
Girlie, it's BEAUTIFUL!!!! AND JOYOUS!!!! What a wonderful change. Congratulations!!!
I am loving the new look!
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