Sunday, January 27, 2008


(SIGH) So, I am admitting it. I am in the mood for love. Actually sex. But how? with whom? and when? (Sigh) If it was just me I could deal but I was over at Ndelible where she has a post: I Want Sex. Now if you aren't moved by the post, then the picture of the nude male photo is enough...and I don't care who you are or your sexual preference--that photo is HOT...but I digress. So she is lamenting what's on my mind (sigh). Then I hop over to Torrence Stephens bka All-Mi-T who's post A Penchant 4 Commitment is so moving and so beautiful that he has single handed restored my faith in Brothers who love supreme. And if none of that isn't enough Sojourner G has crafted an arsenal of love lost/love found/ love is God poetry, that so get under my skin that I can't stand it. I find them all to be, well, haunting. I hate to even mention all the time I spend over at Bloggersdelight2write all that delicious Grown Folks poetry and before I can settle in to read the latest posts I have the nerve to click on their 2 Make U Groove --all that old school music and I always start with Prince's Adore. So what's a Grown Woman to do? (SIGH)

My sister-friend JB suggests a cup of tea...short for sex toys--don't ask. Yes of course I say. Why I have a small reliable stash of toys that I ...well you know. But still...(SIGH) having a cup of tea is lovely, but it's the weight I need. The weight of someone playing moon to my stars--you know what I mean. Hey we're all Grown folks aren't we. Yes of course. When I am unusually focused on all things sex, sweat and more sex, I tip on over to Bad Bad Girl for some erotic reading--besides she has a killer blogroll. Yep, I know my freak flag is showing a bit, but I am a Grown Woman with NEEDS! DESIRES and FANTASIES! (SIGH).

Anyway, I am thinking about this and praying about this. I suspect Mr. Right-For-Me will show up sometime or another. IN the meantime, I am going to add a label here just so that I can talk about this from time to time.


Ndelible said...

Babz ~~

Gurl, I am feeling ya!!! In my head, I'm thinking about fear vs. love. I know which one has to win, but right now the loser sure is putting up one heck of a fight! The choices we're making (or not making) are so profound. And yet, sometimes I think we put too much stock in them. It's life. And life changes everyday. What's wrong with taking a chance? Even if we're rebuffed, we're better for it, right?

Ndel's World

Reasonably Happy Gal said...

I really miss kissing the most. That is the one thing you can't take care of yourself.

Lovebabz said...

I am with you! This is my year for Love and Happiness! So everything is fair game! Keep me posted and I will do the same.

Lovebabz said...

Reasonably Happy Gal,

Sister, yes kissing is a big deal. My estranged husband and I stopped kissing early on---mostly because I couldn't stand the way he did it---so much spit...YUCK It made me sick everytime we kissed. Fast forward 12 years later and that was one of the reasons he stated for leaving--that I didn't like to kiss him. I guess sucking dick wasn't quite enough! Yes I miss a good kiss too. I am long overdue.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

Dang I love head, and I would to add, thanks for the passionate shout out hon

Lovebabz said...

Thanks Torrence. I can't say much else...(BLUSH!) I don't know too many men if any any who don't like to get their heads...well you know.

James Tubman said...

kind of made me wish i was in your neck of the woods lol

Lovebabz said...

Brother Tubman,
You are kind. And just you saying that cheers me up in a big way!

CapCity said...

Yea, Sistah BABZ - I'm SO wicha on this topic. AND I definitely need WEIGHT ON it!! I NEVAH in a million YEARS thought I'd ever be celibate for any length of time - but when I got to the two year mark I POUNCED on this new brother in my life!

Now, I'm back to celibacy cuz ... i find the physical intimacy w/o the emotional intimacy like having chocolate cake for every meal. Now I LOVES me some chocolate!! But by itself - is KILLING me & not fulfilling me! Lawd, I pray I don't have to give up Chocolate forEVAH!!

Lovebabz said...

I am starting to think seriously about old fashioned BOOTY CALLS! I am certainly not ready for a long lasting love affair...or maybe I am. But for now I can seriously considering a BOOTY CALL! The only problem is who would I call? LOL!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for the shout out ma. I know EXACTLY how you feel. Cup o' tea not withstanding, there is NO substitute for the human touch of a member of the opposite sex (my proclivity anyway). We were made for each other and meant to have each other.

I don't have a remedy, just an empathetic heart and ear.

Believe it or not, many of us struggle. I channel by writing. I'll share it with you, but you gotta email me for it.

Be well.

Lovebabz said...

Sojourner G,

Ahh it is good to know that I am not alone in my desires. I will absolutely email you.