Sunday, September 16, 2012


I am cleaning up my house of friendships and acquaintances, both in my real everyday life and here at my virtual home, my blog.  I am saying or have said goodbye to folks who do not serve my spirit. It is time to align myself with people who think positively, act positively and move in the world with real gusto! And maybe you are doing that in your life, but it's not feeling that way to me.

I am judging people (we all have to judge people in order to decide who to keep around and who to let go of), however I am not condemning anyone.  I just can't keep reading, discussing, or hearing the same bullshit that does not grow my spirit.  I am tired of my same old bullshit.  If I check you out and dig what you have to say and then find you are still saying the same shit day in day out, I gotta go.  It's not about you, it's about me.  It's about what I need and what I gotta do to get myself further down this road.  If I am still stuck in my mess then you should drop me too. I am beyond being entertained by other people's messes and drama. I am seeking to grow into spiritual maturity.  I am seeking to clean up my act and become more of what God would have me be.  If I keep reading and listening to mess and crap and the same old, tired run-down excuses why their life isn't working, or their love interest is not feeling them, or they are going back for more where there was only less anyway, then there's no moving forward. This is not to put down anyone's journey or self-discovery, I gotta walk my path and stay in my lane. Hanging around hoping other folks will ignite my fire is not a plan.

We are each connected to one another, with valuable lessons to share and get from each other.  Sometimes we spend lifetimes together, and other times its brief... fleeting.. minutes.

Taking the profound advice of FLOTUS Michelle Obama... don't bring people into your life who weigh you down.  I am losing weight.

So if you feel hurt, or angry or annoyed at me for dumping you.  I am sorry. I gotta go. Thanks for all that you brought to me for the journey thus far.  I hope I brought something special to you too.  But it's time to move on.



LadyLee said...

I thought I was the only one that thought this way. As I get older, I am less likely to put up with other folks' issues. That is, if I'm not able to be helpful in the situation.

My thing now: if I'm not being a blessing to you, and you're not being a blessing to me... then we probably don't need to be dealing with each other. A harsh way of looking at things, but I tell you, it's a sure way of eliminating the riff-raff out of my life. And it's a good way for me to make sure I'm not a hindrance in the life of others.

Lovebabz said...

Hello OG LadyLee!

Life is too short to waste on foolishness. I no longer have the patience of my youth to wait on other people's growth.

Sister P said...

Just stopping by! Glad to see you're in good place. It will get easier and easier to walk away from those who are not a benefit to you. It doesn't take some big declarative statement, just stop communicating with them. I've done it over and over and my inner circle is getting closer and tighter like a hug. Enjoy the embrace of true friendship. (that was sort of deep huh? LOL) See ya Babz!

Moanerplicity said...

Methinks a bit of emotional baggage clearing is always wise because it helps to de-clutter one's life. Seems like the beginning of each new season I have to rearrange my priorities along w/ the people in the movie of my life, who might serve as scenic decoration, but not essential players in the final cut.

Hope that doesn't sound too harsh. It's only a metaphor.

At the end of the day, I applaud you for taking a few more steps along the path of positive realization, deep in the wilds of Lovebabz-ville.