Friday, November 28, 2008


I, like a lot of folks want MORE! I want more love, money, joy, sex, good times, clarity...MORE! MORE! MORE!

But what exactly is MORE? And will I know it when I get it...will I be satisfied?

Is it more that we seek? or just better quality of what we have? I mean I have love in my life. I have joy and good times. How could there be more? and what would more mean. What would I do with more. Am I suggesting that I would be more happier with more things, more love, more sex---scratch sex...not having any at the moment. But really, When I say I want more , do I mean MORE? See this is where discernment comes in.

The word discernment is my favorite. I love saying it, I love thinking of it. I love doing it. DISCERNMENT, the trait of judging wisely and objectively. Now add in the definition of MORE, in greater quantity, amount, measure, degree, or number.

So I have to ask myself. Is MORE what I want? YES! Then the next question is what am I willing to do for more? The answer: be more of who I am! Be fully present in my life so that I do not miss out on all the things that MORE is! I certainly can love more, laugh more, cook more, talk with friends more. Getting more is extending myself MORE. It is reaching out further. It is opening my mind and heart wider. It is allowing the light of love to shine brighter.

More is really about me stepping more fully into my destiny. Walking in my own truth and rejecting insecurity and fear. I get this. I got this.

Yes, I want MORE!


LadyLee said...

Great post, BABZ!

I not only want MORE, but I pray for the wisdom that comes along with having that MORE. This discernment, as you say, is so very critical...

Having more of something at the wrong time can be a problem... Am I ready for it and do I have the wisdom to handle it? Only God knows.

But I love what you say here, which I feel is the gist of it all:

"...the next question is what am I willing to do for more? The answer: be more of who I am!"

To me, that means maturing in the "MORE" of who I am, and being willing to give more. This opens up the door to MORE coming my way.

Okay, hon... sorry to pontificate over in your comment section. Thanks for this nice reminder of it being okay to not only want more, but to BE more for others.

Hope you are enjoying your holiday:)

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

my fav words are eat and sleep

maybe jones and folk said...

Hello there Lovebabz!!

Happy Thanksgiving!!

I agree with you that "more, more, more!!" must be examined and re-examined... why are we so focused on "more, more, more!" in quantity but not focused on our own quality of life?

I especially want to see black women place greater importance on quality of life issues.

I am glad that Michelle Obama has not allowed herself to be drawn into the national debate about whether or not she should be a full-time mom...she is "mommy-in-chief" and that is the term she uses and there is NOTHING wrong with a successful black woman choosing to give her children ALL of her time.

Why do we think that we HAVE to have successful careers and also juggle motherhood...we have a choice to choose one or the other...or both.

Peace, blessings and DUNAMIS!

CapCity said...

I hear ya, Sis! And everytime I ask for ALL that I want - I pray I'm ready FOR IT! ;-). Go 'head on Sexy Moma!

flutter said...

you deserve, not only more, but the most :)

Lovebabz said...

First of allyou are welcome to speak as long as you want here. Youa re my blog Sister and yu mean a great deal to me.

Secondly, you are so on point..."Maturing in the more of me". I like that very much.

Appreciate your blog pressence and support.

it is a hard one to call becasue we pay a high price for either choice. I have done both...sacrficed for children and career. Not any easy road...not an easy choice.

How nice o fyou to come through!

That is the real grace...being ready for what we want more of!

You know I love that! You do so know how to get at me :)

R. Fitzgerald said...

You are on my street now.

Somebodies Friend said...

Great topic Lovebabz,

This is something that I have been struggling with for a while.

Lately I have been trying to be much more present, so that I can give more of myself, because I truely want to be a better person.

I also want more, and I think I am finally over the hump and ready for the task at hand.

@LadyLee: I think you are right on when you said 'Having more of something at the wrong time can be a problem..." And God does only know if I am ready to handle it, but I feel as grounded right now as I ever have, it truely is a miracle.

The insecurity and fear are starting to subside, I think with the support of my friends and a few more positive encounters, these things will be OLD HAT!

And I look forward to doing lots of cooking, and having friends over, both new and old for good times, I can hardly wait actually, I think it will be a lot of fun.

I think it will also become easier to extend myself more when I have a few friends around that actually acknowlege me, with the game playing that has been going on, it is hard to build confidence when it comes to reaching out.

Some of the things that I see that have been happening were not good exercises in communication or for confidence boosting. When the game shifts to a more positive one I think I will do just fine.

Some of the things that have been happening just frustrated me, and when I keep getting frustrated I SHUT DOWN, anyone who knows me understands this, so as long as the program is going to change, then so will I.

clnmike said...

Great post.

Moanerplicity said...

Sometimes I think MORE is a form of internal greed, or at least a chronic state of dissatisfaction. Maybe it's best to require the essentials, and anything MORE than that should be seen as an embarrassment of riches... a Blessing beyond our core needs.

Snatch JOY!


MsKnowitAll said...

Lovely post!

Ain't nuthin' wrong with wanting more. How are you supposed to be blessed with more if you don't first desire it in your heart?

May you receive all of the "more" you yearn for.

KELSO'S NUTS said...

There's a great story I heard about the writers Joseph Heller and Kurt Vonnegut about this subject.

They were at some lavish party in Westchester or Fairfield County at the home of some CEO of a huge company. The place was just sick. The owner had Picassos and Monets and Cassats on the walls. The grounds were a scall replica of Versailles. The place was 50,000 square feet. The guy had the craziest wine cellar you could imagine. The entertainment for the evening was Bob Dylan or The Rolling Stones or Neil Young or something.

So, Heller and Vonnegut are wandering around taking it all in and Heller keeps muttering "wow" with each new excess that he observes.

Vonnegut says to Heller "What's so great about this guy? I can't run a big company but I know a lot more than he does."

Heller replies "I'm not talking about writing novels, Kurt. The guy is really good at what he does. His company has expanded three times since he took over. It always beats the estimates each quarter. What could you possibly know that he doesn't know?"

Vonnegut respondS "Joe, I know the meaning of the word 'ENOUGH'"

Kit (Keep It Trill) said...

I don't know if I want more, Lovebabz. I've been spending the weekend cleaning out my car and closets and cabinets, and I want less.

Oh, I get what you say about wanting more quality in things and relationships. The former usually wears out; the latter often does too except with one's family and closest friends, which tend to have movement in one direction or another are generally more enduring.

Cheers to quality and endurance.

Angie-Nuvision said...

Wonderful post... Thanks!