Wednesday, April 21, 2010

HE IS GETTING MARRIED.

Wishing my ex well as he prepares a new life with a new woman.  My happiness is no longer tied to his happiness, however we are all connected one to each other on this planet.  My destiny lies before me and with each step away from the past I move and grow into my future.

I am holdling realistic memories of a marriage that had so much promise and hope and love.  I am not romanticising his behaviour or mine...it was what it was.  It took a while for me to let go of a dream that he long since walked away from.  I am standing in the place of knowing I am free!  I am more me now than I have ever been.

I am wishing him well...I hear three is the charm!  The woman he has chosen seems like a wonderful caring person.  She seems to be genunienly interested in my kids and treats them very well....lets hope so for her sake!

It is rather odd to be thinking of his wife not being me...but not in a missing him sort of way.  What I am really saying is, that chapter is closed and we are both very differently the same people who jumped that very broom a decade and a half ago. We have four children and that was worth the ride.  I will always hold him in my heart as the man who made me a mother!  And I suspect one day he will truly know that I did love him so.

15 comments:

DivafromSC said...

Wow...I can only hope that I am able to feel this way when my ex remarries. I admire your strength, you're such an inspiration to me!!

Princess Tinybutt said...

you consistantly amaze me, give me pause in a good way, and make me proud to be a woman.

hugs to you my friend

BLUEBUTTERFLY said...

Honest and beautiful...if only more people knew how to appreciate the journey.

Peace.

Kay C, The Quiet Storm said...

Dearest Love,

You are an amazing woman. If only I could say I felt the same when I found out my ex re-married but our situations are different and I felt...some kind of way about it. Funny how men seem to jump from one marriage to the next when women often contemplate, hesitate and show reluctance.

Yes, it is strange saying "your wife" when you no longer refer to yourself but at least she is kind and caring.

You continue to amaze me Sis!

(((HUGS)))

Moanerplicity said...

Well, my Sista... I know that you tend to write from a place of Truth, and so, I must commend you on this obvious growth as you move on, evolving more and more into your own self-actualization. That's a very healthy and sane attitude. Spiritually it must be very feeling to let go... without bitterness, without acrimony knowing that his journey and yours are now on two different paths.

Snatch JOY!

One.

L

MsKnowitAll said...

And by wishing him well, you are only inviting more love and more joy into your life.

You are amazing!

Luv said...

i have been missing you.. you are always helping me see how much i have to grow.. it's a wonderful thing to wish someone well esp. if you all have a past together..

here's to finding our own love

Vérité Parlant is Nordette Adams said...

It's great when exes marry the new wife in the right order, meaning the marriage ends, you talk and analyze, you divorce, and then they move on to a new life with a new wife. I think that makes it a easier, but either way, whether they depart correctly or in a venomous rage, it's best to wish the ex well, wish them love, and heal. You're so well-balanced.

Right now I'm listening to Terry McMillan read from her new novel, Getting to Happy, which is a sequel to Waiting to Exhale. Her characters are in midlife. It'll be out in September. Sounds good so far. :-)

LadyLee said...

Now THIS is what I call a good healthy attitude. Good deal. Great post of reflection and hope.

Monique said...

wow. Just wow. Your strength and conviction are inspiring. You go girl!

Gemini Girl aka GG said...

I'm getting inspiration and hope for you. I would love to have this type of healthy relationship with my ex.
My divorce is only a few years old and sometimes I wish my ex would find a love that will make him happy and give him peace because right now he's just going thru one bad woman after another and its making everyone around him miserable!!
Hugz to you love!

Shannon said...

You're expressing the kind of maturity of mind and spirit most can hope to achieve. Kudos!

嘉容嘉容 said...

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chele said...

I remember when my ex got remarried. I wished him well even though I knew he wasn't ready to get married again. I wanted only his happiness. It lasted less than a year.

Bunni said...

You are a strong, beautiful woman. To wish him well was the greatest thing you could possibly do. I love how you said you are feeling more you than ever, and I believe the best it yet to come. Keep loving and living life to the fullest!